Getting Help
- Consider joining a caregiver support group. Spending time once a week with people experiencing the same journey as you are is not only comforting, but allows an opportunity to learn from others. Most caregivers have solved problems in unique ways and they are happy to share their knowledge. It’s also a great place to receive emotional support.
- If you are suffering from caregiver burnout and you can’t find your way out of it, you must get some professional help. See your doctor and ask for a referral. Your health and wellbeing are of the utmost importance.
- Buy Long-Term Care Insurance. It many be too late to buy this insurance for your loved one, but it’s not too late for you. Long-Term Care Insurance helps offset the caregiving costs and will make it possible for you to hire outside help. I can’t stress this enough. Plan ahead.
- Check out Adult Daycare Centers. There are wonderful centers all over the country for healthy, vital seniors. These centers give the senior specific activities to do during the day, help them socialize with others and helps stave off boredom and even depression.
- Utilize as many public and non-profit services as you can. You do not need to do this alone.
- Contact the local college or university and see if they have a gerontology or nursing program. This is a great resource for finding affordable help. Many students need credit and I encourage you to check this out.
- If you notice your senior loved one acting out, behaving inappropriately, experiencing unnecessary anger or rage, do not assume that it’s part of the aging process. Seek help immediately and have your loved one tested.
- If you have children, try to get them involved in the process. Children bring joy to the aging process. They do not need to be sheltered from an aging loved one in need of care. Involve them in the process. We are one of the few societies which does not honor our elders. Maybe it’s time to start thinking differently about this.
- Keep a journal. At the end of the day, you are exhausted, but I can tell that by putting your thoughts and feelings on paper, you will free your mind and have a more restful sleep. In addition, journaling helps us express our deepest feelings, thoughts and ideas.
- Keep your perspective and maintain a sense of humor. You will not live as a caregiver for the rest of your life. Celebrate the moments. Find humor in the journey. Utilize your support team. Finding the right doctors is important. Making sure the house is safe is absolutely necessary. Caring for yourself and not getting lost in the process is also your responsibility. Stop living in guilt and value yourself.
